My dearest one,
How often do you default to “I’m fine”? It’s a shield, a polite answer we’ve mastered. But beneath it, many of us are quietly struggling, carrying unseen burdens. I see you, and I understand.
I tell my clients all the time—true healing doesn’t begin with “I’m fine.” It begins with the brave and honest admission: “I’m not fine.” That’s not weakness; that’s strength. It invites authenticity, truth, and the deep connection we all crave.
When we ignore what’s really going on inside, we create a disconnect. And then we become anxious. We feel off, unsettled, uneasy. Our bodies are wise—they send us signals we often override in the name of appearing strong or staying in control.
So what’s the path forward? It starts with acknowledgment, not judgment. The next time you’re tempted to say, “I’m fine,” pause. Check in with your body. What’s truly alive in you? A tired sigh? A heavy heart? A racing mind?
Just notice it. Then gently name it, even if only to yourself: “I feel tired.” “I feel overwhelmed.” “I feel a little tender today.”
This simple act of naming creates space. It helps soften the armor and makes room for compassion.
Try this:
- Pause and name what you’re really feeling today—without judgment.
- Journal for 5 minutes: What does “fine” really mean to me right now?
- Text or call a trusted friend and share one honest sentence.
This month, let’s commit to radical honesty—with ourselves first. Practice feeling, naming, and gently beginning to heal what’s real.
You are worthy of deep acceptance, exactly as you are—with all your beautiful complexities.
With warmth and understanding, Isabel**
